"Where am I dropping the ball and at what cost?''
Uncover the No 1 reason you feel parenting is HARD, you're overwhelmed and guilty and now struggling with your kids and teenagers, especially with your busy schedule.
You’ve heard it over and over again
And as a busy parent, running a successful business or on your dream job, building a successful career path, you really want to be there raising your kids and be present for your teenager but you can't seem to figure out HOW.
The parents who seem to get it together all say the same thing-
''You just have to learn to juggle the ball.''
They say some days, it's the parenting ball that drops, other times, it’s the work ball or spouse ball that drops.
You can’t have it all, at least not at the same time.
It all sounds realistic, pleasing to the ears
Only that, in reality, you’re are trying to find the right maths or rhythm on the right ball to focus on and when to juggle or drop it.
Your boss or customer timelines don’t seem to get the memo that it’s their turn for a drop ball.
And just when you feel your life is one happy ride, a call from your child’s school or a simple but sincere statement from your child saying ‘my mum is always busy’ or they’ll rather a hangout with your spouse or talk to their friends brings you to your knees and you feel exhausted and question yourself altogether.
Slowly you slip into believing the myth that parenting is hard, no one can have it all, and accepting it’s ok to fail, at least sometimes.
Newsflash
Your work schedules or customers' timelines aren’t designed with you or your teenager in mind- they are designed for profit or their unique purpose.
Even when an organization is people-sensitive, they won’t always match your unique parenting journeys or timelines- Simple truth.
And on the parenting end, once you accept to juggle the ball; drop some, win some, you sign up for the consequences of whatever a drop ball means.
Those consequences can be anything:
All the above are real occurrences in my practice- no makeup at all.
All while you were juggling the career or business ball or life was happening to you
Why? Because parenting never stops or waits;
No off moment, everything adds up; your actions or inactions
There are no timelines to when a child or teenager forms an impression or perspective that goes on to define their identity, mindset and action.
More so, the real world -the, school, the seatmate, or the internet aka the closest stranger-don’t get the memo for an off day of when to bully your child, push their ideology, or influence your teen.
Every day is a prime time for a child to be constantly shaped, influenced, and ‘parented’, especially in today’s changing world.
''But I try to make out the time you say.''
Sunday family lunches or summer travels don’t replace present parenting (actually isn’t)
Your child or teenager is actively transiting through phases; each phase comes with real needs, challenges, and uniqueness.
You’ll need a clear strategy to intentionally navigate and parent through these phases.
And being aware of these phases avails you the opportunity to be a step ahead.
An overlook of a phase by you doesn't imply your child or teenager jumped the phase, it means there’s a gap and now you need to play catch up or be ready to put out fires aka face the consequences.
And if there is something I can tell you for free, playing catch up can be HAARRRRD, not just for you but your child or teen.
''Do I have to slow down on my career or my dream job to parent effectively?''
On the contrary, busy working parents have leverage in raising happy and thriving teens and I'll love to show you how.
Hey! I’m Fola
True Story
In 2019, life was ‘lifeing’ me.
Like it happens to many of us, good or bad.
For some, its
My friend, at the time, out of her good heart, says to me; ‘time to focus on you’’, kids will always come around. You first.
It sounded great and the best option
But I knew better.
I had written my signature 7 stages of parenting at this time, coupled with my then over 10 years experience of working within the teen’s ecosystem, I knew they aren’t off moments with children and teens. A child could go through dramatic changes with just an experience or over a short period.
I chose to be present and engage the right strategies unique to where I was.
4 years later, I was shocked my friend remembered the exact statement she said to me. Even more shocking was what she said now- ‘’You obviously didn't take my advice to choose you first, I don’t know how you did it but you have done a great job with your boys’’.
I was stunned at her admission but also her clear judgment of the benefits of present parenting.
But my short-cut solution was my understanding of the 7 phases of parenting; knowing what my kids needed at every phase, what I needed to do, and building a clear strategy around that.
The juiciest and honestly powerful part is I did all this while taking care of ME.
You too can, no matter where you are right now.
Introducing...
The Ultimate Parenting Compass
Step out of the juggling game or the guesswork that leads to overwhelm, fear and guilt to knowing exactly what to do and when, so you aren't playing catch-up parenting.
This mini-course details my signature 7 phases of Parenting, an important pathway to becoming a Present Parent.
Imagine the difference between trying to find important information from a book that isn’t numbered or with chapters. Just the thought of searching through exhausts you.
The opposite is when a book has chapters and numbers, with highlights; your access to your what, where, and why is within reach, and even better, you can measure your progress.
Dr. Diane. (UK)
The module on 7 Parenting Phases was so good. I wanted everybody I knew to learn and listen to it. I honestly wish I had this information when I just started raising my kids. It helped me audit my parenting immediately- where I was, what I did wrong or well, and what I needed to be doing now. It’s a must-listen for every parent.
Participant from The Present Parent Program.
What you’ll get
By the end of the video series, you'll understand:
This is what’s possible
You winning 
on all fronts and at the same time -in your career, business, and parenting using a proven system that keeps you a step ahead, eliminating the overwhelm, fear and guilt.
Allowing you to build a thriving relationship with your kids or teenagers, even with your busy schedule.
And parenting from a place of rest and peace, instead of guilt or fear, being guarded with the right information, and tools, and taking intentional steps.
Raising kids and teenagers who share your values as they build theirs and are raised ready to thrive in their world independent of you.
This is what it takes
A tailored system that works for your unique parenting journey (yes, because parenting like others is the first recipe to failing at parenting).
And the first and crucial step is you understanding the 7 strategic parenting phases, which serve as your parenting compass, guiding you to take smart actions and informed decisions.
BONUS:
Testimonials
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My son is in the 6th phase, and from what I've now learned, I see I have been overprotective. I should step into a new role at this parenting phase which I now will. This has been such a remarkable learning experience.
Ngwoke C
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One of my take-home points is that I tell my kids that I have modelled certain traits that I haven't seen them express. I understand now that I didn't fully put the 3rd phase in place.
Lara I
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Yes, I see gaps in the 3rd phase with my kids. I expect them to do certain things at certain times, but they default at times, and I feel bad. I see where the gap is now.
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FAQ
Apart from the live sessions, Q&A, and workbooks, you will be able to go through the videos in about 3 hours.
In reality, every child is different and our first task is to meet and understand our kids where they are. This course is built around these fundamentals. You will get the right tools to parent and support your child in this course content.
I love how you describe your child. This course will even give you a broader and rounded perspective on you child and how to navigate parenting through the different phases and through ages 0-16. As the name implies; it’s your compass to know when, where, and how.
To be honest, this course is most appropriate and beneficial for parents who are just starting on the parenting ladder because they can start out right but the content of this course serves parents up to 15-16 years.
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